Why I Gave National Selfie Day A Miss

Some of you may have been wondering why I haven’t been posting about my running exploits of late. Although many of you are undoubtedly not. I’m not injured or anything and have been plodding along the highways and byways around our village as ever. My Garmin has been playing up, however, which means I haven’t been able to sync runs to the corresponding app.

A screenshot of the app is how I evidence the run. As I can’t do this at present then I’m loathe to write about runs that I can’t prove I ran. I could be making the whole thing up. Us runners have an unwritten rule – if it’s not on Garmin/Strava/Forerunner then it didn’t happen. Call me weird but that’s one of the reasons why I haven’t been blogging about my running. It’s not the only one though.

I also reckon it’s not the most exciting subject matter unless you’re a fellow runner. I’m ever conscious of the fine line between informing you all about my life and bragging about it. I desperately don’t want anyone thinking the latter so am always very careful when I write updates on the book I am writing or upcoming races. I used to be that big head on Twitter/Instagram. It’s a role I don’t want to reprise.

I wrote a blog yesterday about the book that received a fairly lukewarm response. I’m fine about that but it was a timely reminder that everyone’s life does not revolve around me and my running and writing. I took a day off yesterday from the book as I had other priorities to attend to. The break will have done me no harm as my obsessive nature is never far away.

I noticed during the week that it was National Selfie Day. I cringed when I read that as it brought back some horrible memories of my previous incarnations on the aforementioned social media platforms. I now tend to avoid cameras where I can. I don’t do any social media bar WordPress and fret about future marketing of the book if it ever sees the light of day. Thankfully I think I saw two selfies the entire day on WordPress from a couple of serial offenders who seem to do little else.

I think that says a lot about the calibre of the bloggers on WordPress. I hope I never go back to being that vain, self centred person. Thankfully I have a very sensible wife who helps keep me on the straight and narrow. And three fantastic kids who regularly bring me down to earth and remind me that I’m an embarrassing, middle aged man who cannot dance, rap or do anything remotely cool.

I’ll keep blogging but there will be periods when I won’t talk about the projects I am working on. Now you know the reasons why. I want this blog to inspire, encourage and motivate others. In order to do that I attempt to set a positive example. This blog is not about me, it is about others. I cannot and will not go back to the way things were. I’m better than that and you all deserve better than that. That is all.

What are your thoughts on the selfie culture?

What have your experiences been like on other social media platforms?

Published by Fractured Faith Blog

We are Stephen and Fionnuala and this is our story. We live in Northern Ireland, have been married for 17 years and have three kids - Adam, Hannah and Rebecca. We hope that our story will inspire and encourage others. We have walked a rocky road yet here we are today, together and stronger than ever. We are far from perfect and our faith has been battered and bruised. But an untested faith is a pointless faith. Just as a fractured faith is better than none at all. We hope you enjoy the blog.

24 thoughts on “Why I Gave National Selfie Day A Miss

  1. “everyone’s life does not revolve around me” – I struggle with this too. When I post and it goes over like a lead balloon I remember people have busy lives. No one is sitting around waiting for my post, but if they see it in their feed they may enjoy it. Trying to learn patience, because it seems my readers eventually get to it.

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  2. I’m on the fence about selfies. I think if there’s context that provides value (I.e. someone who has had a transformative experience in their self confidence is expressing that change to encourage self confidence in others) then that’s great, but I’m exhausted by seeing the pics of the same people in the same poses for absolutely no reason. I’m all for saying goodbye to the later type.

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  3. On the surface… the selfie culture appears to be harmless fun. However (insert parental tone) I fear it can lead a person down a self destructive path known as the comparison game. We as humans do too much of that as it is. We don’t need to add extra pathways and methods to pile on to that sense of “not good enough” and create a bigger hole of emptiness within ourselves.

    I’m content with having an avatar to serve as a “face” for my blog. People come to my pages read what I’ve written, not gawk at a face or body. I trust if that’s what they had wanted, they would have gone somewhere else.

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      1. Thank you! I appreciate that. Still working on it, here and there. I suppose when working on a 3D model like this one never feels like it’s ever done. Pretty much the same way with writing. 😉


  4. The internet is the scariest place. Really. WordPress is my first platform and i made an actual profile on Pinterest too. I have never had a presence before (not even MySpace) nothing! and everyday it is weird and I have many doubts. But… at the end of the day it’s for my book. We are evolving for our craft. Being brave right? That’s a good thing I think…

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          1. Nope. 2 form and one update on Twitter so a cnr confirmed no response. I hope to hear something from a quick responder whom is know to be helpful. Most get something around 2 weeks. I’m at 2 weeks today.

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  5. I read “selfie” as “selfish culture” and I was like, “Hmm, that’s not wrong.”

    It really is an interesting balance to see what readers enjoy and do not enjoy. I also have to remind myself the time of the year, and that everyone is busy. Some posts, for me at least, do not always take off in one day, sometimes I need a week to see how it actually responded in the community. Running and writing are definitely part of your life, so don’t be afraid to write about them 🙂 but I agree with you too, balance is really key, and it’s awesome you keep that in mind for your audience.

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  6. I loathe selfies. I at times will post one on Instagram but only to introduce myself. Even that feels awkward and self absorbed. Having a teen daughter who struggles with self esteem, at times I wish I was born in a time where phones and computers weren’t a thing. Honestly teen girls suffer the most from Facebook and Snapchat not to mention all the online bullying and deception that goes on. It’s been hard to navigate it all with her. It just seems like social media and selfies give a false impression of closeness but really it is the opposite.


  7. Selfies … I loathe them. Correction … The occasional one is fine, that’s what a photograph is for, to remind us of a moment in time. But this INCESSANT obsession of girls pouting and preening and spending far too much time focusing on what they look like and how they need their ‘likes’ is frankly unhealthy. They egg each other on. They are presenting a false picture to the world with photoshopping and (I’m on a roll now) some of the celebrities who are famous simply for being famous are doing nothing to help this self-obsessed vanity. Grrrrr. Ok I’m not even sure that I feel better for ranting, but I hope you don’t mind my answering your question with a bit of passion and oomph. Katie

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