Words are something that we all use every day of our life

Words that are spoken in many different languages and ways be it through speech, sign language, communication boards, text messaging and writing to name but a few

Words that are loving, encouraging, beautiful, uplifting and words that are dangerous, nasty, hateful and ugly

Words can be as damaging as being physically assaulted. Those words stay in your head torturing you putting you down and make you feel hopeless, worthless and useless again and again and again. Bruises fade, cuts heal and memories can fade but the power of a spoken word can last forever in your head.

We all have the power of the spoken word within us it’s how we use it that counts. My mum brought me my brothers and sister up telling us “if you can’t say nothing nice then say nothing at all” and I can’t honestly say that I have not always put that into practice. Sometimes our mouths or our fingers on the keyboard can run away with us and before you know it you have tore somebody’s character to shreds or insulted and hurt someone who in turn will replay those words over and over again in their head because once that word is out there there is no taking it back. We can apologise and ask for forgiveness and that can done but forgetting is the hardest part.

I now tell our children “if you can’t say nothing nice say nothing at all” I’m pretty sure they don’t always practice it but I still keep telling them it because one day it could stop them from hurting someone they love more than they could ever know.

The spoken word can be very powerful but the unspoken word can be even greater.

God Bless

Fionnuala xx

Published by Fractured Faith Blog

We are Stephen and Fionnuala and this is our story. We live in Northern Ireland, have been married for 17 years and have three kids - Adam, Hannah and Rebecca. We hope that our story will inspire and encourage others. We have walked a rocky road yet here we are today, together and stronger than ever. We are far from perfect and our faith has been battered and bruised. But an untested faith is a pointless faith. Just as a fractured faith is better than none at all. We hope you enjoy the blog.

41 thoughts on “Words

  1. My mother raised us much the same way and I do try my best to live her very good advice. sometimes words are said (or written) in anger and I agree words are powerful with the ability to heal or to maim. We are all only human and given to mistakes, yet, it is not only sticks and stones that harm – words do hurt and very deeply. They can become the negative litany that plays ad nauseum in our heads and can destroy a person’s confidence and self-esteem. This is a wonderful post Fionnuala, thank you!

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  2. Words leave scars that people can’t see or appreciate. Which, sadly, often leads to them re-opening those wounds with dismissiveness. It is truly amazing how powerful words are, and how easily we forget that.

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  3. I couldn’t agree more with your message. One of my email addresses is … ifyoucantsay… I have read some text messages and emails that lost their true meaning through improper word choices. One wrong word and the whole message gets convoluted. Because of societies reliance on written word, electronic communication. Communication, especially interpersonal communication has lost much of its human factors. When was the last time you took pen to paper and wrote a letter to a far away friend or relative? Just this past holiday season I actually purchased greeting cards. It was a small box of 12 cards. I still have 6 left over. My lovely Dooney Bourke address book is nearly empty. But I have a contact list in my phone with over 500 numbers and email addresses stored. Mostly people I never even talk to in person, let alone actually call them. My last thought because I realize I’m rambling now is on something I taught my children when they were growing up. Along with please, thank you and the if you can’t say rules. I also included the fact that “sticks and stones can break the bones, but words can break the heart”
    Blessings for a peaceful journey

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  4. Great post! So very true, indeed! Yet, forgiveness can happen, if the relationship is worth mending. Sometimes we go through those experiences to develop and learn about our character. Every experience is a lesson, even when it hurts. God will allow us to go through the even strengthen your faith. I’m rambling, have a bless day!

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