Words Are Where It All Begins

Life is too short. We need to say what we mean. I’ve spent much of my life beating about the bush, avoiding the real issues and choosing to ignore the various white elephants trumpeting in the corner of the room. I often feel that I’ve wasted so much time and am now desperately facing a race against time to set matters straight. To put my affairs in order, to make things right. At times, it seems an impossible uphill battle.

The good news, for the less eloquent of us, is that you don’t need to be Henry V or Oscar Wilde. Impressive oratorical skills are not required. In fact, often the less words you use the better. Cut through the nonsense and get to the heart of the matter. Look that person in the eye, dial that number, compose that message, whatever it takes. Just start the ball rolling and reach out to them. It’s never too late.

It can be three little words – I love you. Or two – I’m sorry. Or even one – Yes. Those utterances can break the dams of hurt and regret, send the walls tumbling down and allow love and hope to grow and flourish. It might not happen in the blink of an eye, but it’s a start, a line in the sand that you’ve crossed. Tear down barriers, repair damaged bridges. The power to do so is within you. Words can heal like no medicine known to man. They sooth troubled souls.

Does this resonate within you? Is there someone out there you need to engage with, to reach out and try again. Well then, what are you waiting for? The time is now, and today is the day. Be brave, and take that step. Speak those words and pave the way for the subsequent actions on your part which will prove you meant exactly what you said. Actions speak louder than words, but words are where it all begins.

Do you need to speak to someone today?

Published by Fractured Faith Blog

We are Stephen and Fionnuala and this is our story. We live in Northern Ireland, have been married for 15 years and have three kids - Adam, Hannah and Rebecca. We hope that our story will inspire and encourage others. We have walked a rocky road yet here we are today, together and stronger than ever. We are far from perfect and our faith has been battered and bruised. But an untested faith is a pointless faith. Just as a fractured faith is better than none at all. We hope you enjoy the blog.

32 thoughts on “Words Are Where It All Begins

  1. Well said Stephen! I can’t think of anything that needs to be said today, thank God. Most days are not like that, but they are farther between than they used to be.

    The one thing I know longer say is “I’m sorry”. I used to say it a lot. I was a tornado wreaking havoc wherever I went. The usual response to my “I’m sorry” was “Yes, you are”. I never followed up my words with action so “I’m sorry” was pretty meaningless.

    Things have changed. I live free of the demons that haunted me for so long. Gaining personal freedom meant saying, “I was wrong. What do I need to do to make it right?”, and then following it up with corrective action. Amends, making things right, has replaced “I’m sorry”.

    Keep up the great work!

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  2. Wonderful post! I would add though that sometimes saying nothing at all is the best option. For example, sitting quietly with somebody who is grieving, or setting a boundary whereby all efforts to resolve a conflict have failed and there really is nothing left to say. Sometimes saying nothing at all is wise, like when you are very angry and know if you start to speak you may do more harm than good. Having said that, I agree words can pave the way to smoother relationships – if we choose them wisely.

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  3. This completely resonated with me. I’m famous for saying nothing at all, especially the hard things or confrontation. It’s not the virtue was taught it was. But lately, I’m finding out when you speak up, assertively, it helps, even where you hadn’t imagine it would. Thanks for this power ful message today. 🌺

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  4. After reading this I messaged the woman who is the reason I started my blog in the first place.

    We haven’t communicated for around 18 months and the last time we did it wasn’t a pleasant encounter.

    I have been thinking about messaging her for a while but this post managed to persuade me to finally do it.

    So far there’s been no response, but I guess I’ll see what happens.

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  5. Oh amen!! This is soo timely! My brother has cut off ties from our family. I keep praying for this very thing to take place. Still praying. Thanks. Great words!! ❤️
    Lisa!!

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