My First Ever WordPress Rant

An uncharacteristic day on WordPress where normally I encounter universal support and positivity from my fellow bloggers. I’ve had a handful of negative and, in my humble opinion, utterly unnecessary comments pop up on the feed. I’ve thought long and hard about responding to them but have finally decided to get it out of my system. So please bear with me while I have my little rant. It won’t be long, I promise.

Firstly I am totally open to constructive feedback and criticism. My skin isn’t that thin and I understand it’s the only way I will improve as a blogger and writer. I welcome these. What I don’t welcome are hurtful and hateful comments aimed at jibing me and provoking a reaction. These are all the more hurtful as the author appeared to have devoted considerable time and effort. There was also more than a hint of gleeful malice behind them.

Next up are criticisms of what I write. I wear my heart on my sleeve and pride myself on the honesty of my writing. If I’m having a bad day/week/month it will tend to come across in my content. I make no excuses for that, it’s who I am. You will get warts and all from me as opposed to a ‘happy clappy’ worldview where everything is wonderful and rainbow coloured unicorns frolic on marshmallow clouds.

If you don’t like this then feel free to unfollow the blog. Nobody is forcing you to read this if it doesn’t agree with your faith, ethics or morals. My faith is fractured, the clue is in the title, and at times on the verge of collapse. You need not fret as I’m sure God and I will work it out in the end. I’m a bit like Jacob in that respect, forever wrestling with the fallout from the toxic and distinctly un-Christian behaviour I regularly witnessed within the church environment.

Next up, I’m a writer, so I tend to blog about writing quite a bit. I’ve written a book and I’m about to start a second one. A follower today had an issue with the amount of time I spend blogging about said books. I’m apparently at fault for daring to promote my novel. Once again, I’m not asking anyone to buy the book, I’m sure you all have budgets and I never would dream of being at the top of them. But I do reserve the right to utilise this forum to talk about my passion for writing.

I also was at fault today for daring to post a quote from Sylvia Plath, the American poet and author who tragically committed suicide at a young age. My critic stated It was inappropriate to use a quote from someone who had ‘stuck their head in an oven.’ Shame on me, but thank you for bringing this failing to my attention via your staggeringly insensitive comments. I pray to God you and your family are never plagued by the mental illnesses that drove this brilliant, deeply troubled woman to her death.

Because people who commit suicide are weak and wrong and somehow bad, right? Mental illness, pah! These people need to ‘shake it off’ and ‘pull themselves together.’ I apologise on behalf of us all and bow to your superior wisdom and mental fortitude. In over two years of blogging I’ve never felt the need to respond in this manner. But today was the day that broke this grumpy camel’s back.

Don’t worry, normal service will be resumed tomorrow, or as normal as I’ll ever be. To continue the desert analogies, this will be my line in the sand. I won’t rise to the bait again, I’ll simply delete the offending comment and block the person who wrote it. Life’s too short. The other 99.99% of you are utterly wonderful and I apologise for sounding off in this manner. Enjoy the rest of your day.

Published by Fractured Faith Blog

We are Stephen and Fionnuala and this is our story. We live in Northern Ireland, have been married for 15 years and have three kids - Adam, Hannah and Rebecca. We hope that our story will inspire and encourage others. We have walked a rocky road yet here we are today, together and stronger than ever. We are far from perfect and our faith has been battered and bruised. But an untested faith is a pointless faith. Just as a fractured faith is better than none at all. We hope you enjoy the blog.

134 thoughts on “My First Ever WordPress Rant

  1. Oh my! I am sorry people choose to be so arrogant in their criticism and not helpful. Your writing is wonderful and you would not be stewarding your gift well if you did not share it. Rant away, my friend, rant away!

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  2. This is YOUR blog you can post whatever you like. Like you said in your post, if they donโ€™t like it, they should unfollow you. Why they have to comment hurtful and mean things instead of just unfollowing in the first place is beyond me. As long as you stay true to yourself, youโ€™ll soon sift out the followers that say these things and youโ€™ll have a strong following of people that are actually supportive of your writing.

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  3. As rants go this was pretty mild, though no doubt the need to write it had at its base some smoldering anger – and that’s okay. I have had similar malicious and hateful comments. I refused to acknowledge them because I know the person well and know it is bait and responding would only result in an unending number of such comments. So, I sent them to the trash where they belong. I don’t know what makes some people so unhappy and vindictive, I only know it is unwarranted and unwelcome. I consider where it comes from and where it belongs…

    I love your writing and as madmargaret points out it needed to be said. I hope you enjoy the rest of your day and week – don’t let a few bad apples get you down.

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  4. I suppose this is part of the deal with being online. This is your spot, so it’s my view that if someone is using “gleeful malice ” then a response is perfectly warranted and understandable. You’re now a published author, so your reach is growing, with the many positives comes a few bumps I suppose. Hope it clears up soon.

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  5. Iโ€™m jumping in now to rant! Our children write on this blog and they read the blog and comments Rebecca came to me upset today because she saw someone being mean about her daddy I will not stand for this in any shape or form and have now blacklisted this person so she cannot comment on our blog again Iโ€™m waiting on her next email full of nothing but criticism towards Stephen or myself. Our kids know that their daddy needs to write and blog to help him get through problems that he may have at that time. Theyโ€™ve seen their daddy at his worst and they donโ€™t want to see him like that again they are 17, 15 and 12 and they get it they have a good understanding of mental health problems and support their daddy 110%. Yes Stephen blogs daily, he runs, he has wrote a book, he holds down a full time job and keeps a roof over our heads and we are very proud of him. So like Stephen I also hope that we will never have to post a blog or comments like this again. If you donโ€™t like what we post simply unfollow us. Iโ€™ve blogged about this phrase before IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY SAY NOTHING AT ALL I personally think so people need to reflect on that. Rant over

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  6. Keep on keeping on, Stephen. To quote that great poet, Taylor Swift, haters gonna hate, hate, hate…

    Never quite get that mentality. Finding things that offend a sensitive soul (because, man, you’re SOOO controversial!) then complaining.

    Move along love, nothing to see here.

    If Plath can’t be quoted, we sure are a sad lump of unfeeling humanity. The full range of emotions enriches and informs. And to know others have felt such despair helps those of us still here to feel less isolated.

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  7. Now THIS is a great rant! It actually has the possibility of making a difference while allowing you to vent…a sign of a really good writer๐Ÿ˜

    Your blog, your prerogative of what you do here. I love coming here, whether the topic interests me that day or not. And, youโ€™d be foolish NOT to promote your book!!!

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  8. Well I’ve learned that you can’t please everybody. I’ve had some over the top comments on my blog posts too. I print them so I can look back later, (it keeps me humble) and then I delete them. My blog is meant to be encouraging to others, I don’t need other to see bad stuff, there is enough of that in the world already. Keep up the good work!

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  9. I sometimes forget how uptight or entitled people are.

    It’s your blog–you get to post whatever you want. If people don’t like seeing the promotion of a book you spent a lot of time on, they can just…scroll past and get over it.

    That Sylvia Plath one really upset me to hear about. Acting like suicide doesn’t happen makes it happen more, not solve it.

    Sorry you experienced this toxicity. I do hope your day gets better.

    PS
    Exciting to hear there’s work on another book!

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  10. How ridiculous, that people who get to read good writings without paying a cent for them, then complain about what they read!
    I too have written some books, and have learned some disappointing things about being an author in this day and age. Gone are the days when your publisher will promote your books. Nowadays, if you don’t promote your own book(s), nobody will. It feels awkward at times, I know, but until we can afford to hire publicists, it is what it is. :/

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  11. Believe me if I ever get a book published that is all I will talk about. You have every right to be proud – and to promote your work. Anyone doesn’t like that, don’t open the post. Sorry for your kids to see this negativity toward their dad. But thankful your wife and kids appear to be your biggest supporter. Understand your need to rant – but don’t let the few bad apples spoil all the supporters you have.

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  12. I’m kind of bummed that there are these dark souls on WP. I would tell Rebecca that the people who read her Daddy the most know that he’s an amazing writer. There hasn’t been much (OK, sports, but that’s MY issue) that hasn’t been an excellent read. You’ve also made it so cleat that you’re uncomfortable, but pushing on, with self promotion. Quite honestly, if you thought you were the hottest thing since sliced bread, this wouldn’t bt the blog, and the book wouldn’t be the book, that it IS. So “nyaaaaah” to the people who are acting childish.

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  13. Some people are very good at exposing the very reasons we should feel sorry for their apparent low self esteem. While they are looking to throw stones, we find they are too weak to lift a finger for anything good.
    It is a sickness that will devour them from the inside out in due time.

    Or hopefully, their lives might turn a little after reading one of your uplifting posts. Life is short enough, isn’t it?

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  14. Dare I say youโ€™ve arrived? Your own band of trolls. Very professional indeed. But truly, when you speak truth, are open, and have the gumption to succeed in this world, people are gonna hate. Positive or negative, youโ€™re making people stop, think and feel. Never let them project their misery on you. Block and carry on being awesome ๐Ÿ˜Ž.

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  15. I’m really surprised, indeed shocked, that you have received negative feedback. I mean, what’s not to like? ๐Ÿ™‚ I was hoping that you might name names so that we could send them all to Coventry (not literally you understand – I’ve never been, but I’m sure Coventry is a nice place). Anyway, I hope this rant has done you good and you don’t let them get to you. Keep posting and plugging away… ๐Ÿ™‚

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  16. Your rant is rewarding, to us and hopefully to you! All of us trying desperately to survive in a world with love instead of hate!!!

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  17. Itโ€™s hard not to give weight to the negativity, but if it isnโ€™t constructive in some way then do your best to ignore it. Heck, Iโ€™m nobody and Iโ€™ve received some pretty nasty messages about my writing. My favorite is someone who went out of their way to email me and told me to โ€œStop writing immediately and strongly consider killing myself.โ€ That made me laugh, actually.
    The way I see it, if you have a healthy mix of lovers and haters then you are doing alright. I want the people who hate my writing to do so as fiercely as the people who love it. Or something like that.

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  18. Listen to this rant: he sure is an effective writer about his feelings! Well said: heโ€™s Really promoting understanding of mental health issues!

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  19. Can we please learn to (once again) separate the art from the artist? Everyone has a life apart from their work. Plath’s writing stands on its own. Her personal life is really none of our business. I am glad you chose to promote the writings of a brilliant (however troubled) woman. There is room in the vast open sky for all the stars…and you, my friend are certainly one of them ๐Ÿ™‚ Don’t let the haters get you down.

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  20. I’m really sorry to hear about your experience. Trust me, I’ve made multiple rant posts on my blogs before since I get so fed up with the insanity and injustice in real life. I hope you’re doing better.

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  21. Aaaaw luvvy – this is not nice to hear at all.
    Shake it off. Have a good night’s sleep and wake up forget like a balanced comment.
    And for anyone who has put the effort into writing a book, blogging makes perfect sense, you can blog about anything you want, there are no real rules, and why should you not promote your book???

    Anyway, I am getting wound up now…so I am too going to shake it off and get a good night’s sleep. As I am sure you know, you have a lot of people/fellow bloggers who are very happy with your blogging posts.

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  22. Criticizing another person is easy. Building up, that takes more effort. I’m sorry for the rudeness you received. It hurts. As writers, our one safe place should be our own blogs. It’s not social media. It’s our little corners we’ve created, and we can write what we like. So keep writing Stephen. You have a special talent. You have blessed so many, including me.

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  23. Well Iโ€™m happy you spoke your mind! I agree if people do not like what you .. we.. etc. all write then do not like and stop following. So wrong! Iโ€™m sorry you had to experience this. Once again Iโ€™m so sorry.. hugs friend

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  24. As many wiser men than me have said repeatedly: once you start having haters, you know you’re doing something right! Hatred and bitterness always stem from jealousy, whether or not the person committing the act of hatred realizes it. They’re likely alone at home, nothing to do, feeling bitter about the direction their life is headed… well here’s an easy target! Someone writing about their feelings! Time to make them feel as bad as I do!

    Good for you for not taking the bait. Engaging with these people is a waste of time and energy. This is YOUR space on the web and up to you what you do with it. I feel more pity than malice toward people like that.

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    1. I should also add that the reason I know all of this is that I used to be a hater! When I was drinking all night, angry about how the world had “treated me”, I frequently looked for people to insult in order to make myself feel superior. All it did was make me look like an ignorant moron.

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  25. People would complain about that unicorn on a cloud. Hang in there. Donโ€™t give the criticism too much attention. They obviously find your writing interesting or wouldnโ€™t be reading. Itโ€™s not mandatory, as you said. Writing your book was a great accomplishment and should be a big part of your life now. Itโ€™s interesting to read about how that is impacting you. And more should quote Sylvia Plath. She was brilliant and insightful and human. As someone who has had several people in my family (and others in my friend circle) commit suicide, that act does not take away from the significance of their precious lives.

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  26. What happened to freedom of speech. You are entitled to write about whatever you want. If someone feels they don’t like reading it then, they can move on. Please continue to express yourselves as you please it is your blog.

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  27. It sounds like you were more than justified in writing this post. I am sorry that you suffered such negativity from what was likely some narcissistic trolls. I always enjoy your posts and the fact that they are human and relatable. As an author, I enjoy reading posts from other authors as well! I agree that if they donโ€™t like or agree with your content, then unfollow. It just doesnโ€™t make sense. Keep up with your good work and I am glad you donโ€™t let people change you or your content with their negativity.

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  28. Rant away. You deserve it. I was saddened to discover there are no marshmallow clouds. Lol. Seriously, what is a post worth if it’s not who you are. Why be a storefront display window model made of wax? Respond, reply, debate, but if they become abusive, dump ’em. Blogging is too precious to endure crap. That’s found in II Alan 3:23. -Alan

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  29. Sometimes it just needs to be said. There are too many people out there that take kindness or a genuine attempt to discuss things rationally as weakness of character or conviction.

    It’s funny (sad) that there seems to be a rash of these kind of posts going around WP right now. Maybe that’s a good thing though. It’s past time the decent, polite and rational people take back the virtual and real world from the obnoxious trolls.

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  30. Sounds like a hater to me. People like that aren’t happy with themselves or the direction their life is taking and so they take it out on others who are more like they want to be. I’m sure they desperately wish they had a published book they could blog about, and so they jealously attack others who do so. Take it as a compliment.

    Also speaking as a poet it is insane to complain about quoting Sylvia Plath because she killed herself. She was a good poet and she deserves to be quoted. She fought against her mental illness her entire sadly short life. she lost in the end, but at least a lot of good work she wrote survived. Does this person feel the same way about Dylan Thomas who basically drank himself to death? How does also he feel about people quoting Ernest Hemingway? Or John Berryman? Or the many other writers who lost their battles with depression?

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  31. I for one am glad you promoted your novel on your blog. Iโ€™m almost half way through now and thoroughly enjoying it. ๐Ÿ˜Š
    I also love reading your blog. I agree with those who said you can write whatever you like – itโ€™s your blog!

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  32. Thank you for getting that off your chest. As a writer, you do what you feel you need to in promoting your material. There is no one way of doing it and it’ll be different for each author/follower pairing. You follow your heart and mind on this. And I agree, constructive criticism is good, being a jerk is not.

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  33. I agree, Plath was great, especially her โ€œMetaphors for a Pregnant Womanโ€ and the one about being a mirror on the wall that becomes a lake with old age coming up โ€œlike a terrible fish.โ€ She was good friends with Anne Sexton, whose stuff I also appreciate. Who can forget 45 Mercy Street or The Awful Rowing toward God? As for mental illness, well, you know my story.

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  34. I’ve had a similar experience lately with negativity. People forget that we are allowed to disagree on things we are passionate about and still remain kind and respectful to one another. I’m sorry that you’ve had to experience this, and I know it’s easier said than done, but keep doing you! You don’t write to necessarily please others, but because you have a passion for it and you enjoy it. You should never apologize for writing what you feel is right or appropriate or relevant. It’s almost like there are just some people waiting for you to make a mistake to point it out. Instead it should be that people are waiting for you to make an awesome blog post because they know you’ve done so many before. Some people think that they speak for everyone else or are entitled because they think their feelings are above everyone else’s. Just remember that you are doing this for reasons you have. If people follow along the way that’s great but they don’t have to. Reading other view points or posts that make you think outside the box is healthy. It’s healthy to disagree with someone sometimes but there is an appropriate way to go about it. Only God is going to judge you and I doubt what you mentioned is grounds for being sent to Hell ๐Ÿ˜› keep the posts coming!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  35. It is really annoying when people put comments that are in no way helpful or insightful. I could never understand why someone would continue to follow a blog/channel/media account that they hated. It just takes too much time and energy.

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  36. The trolls abound and if you feed them, they seem to grow exponentially. I like your blog just the way it is and if you are comfortable with the direction it is heading – that is all that is necessary. I have a simple rule, if someone is rude, unnecessarily crude or simply negative to get attention from others, I do not publish the comment and delete it. It is my choice to not give those who I consider to be trolls the opportunity to see the reactions they so want to start/see.

    It is your blog and you get to decide what/how/when you write and what comments you allow to be published. There is no place for the troll comments and keeping a blog fun. I prefer to see what you write not some asinine comment that is written to be purposely negative and make you or other readers angry or feel less than we are.

    Keep writing and having fun with the blog – that is what it is all about. ๐Ÿ™‚

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      1. Also it has been my experience that the trolls enjoy the rants, it means their arrow has hit the mark and that you read their petty comments and reacted the way they wanted. Not ever publishing and blocking those who troll your blog for their idea of fun is the only way to get their kicks someplace else. They suck, but unfortunately, are a part of the blogosphere and negativity that exists in the world.

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  37. Loved the rant. It is so unnecessary for someone to try and put you down. Not responding is the best thing! It will frustrate them. They will not ever know if you read it. That is the worst punishment.

    I always tell people I am totally imperfect and if they don’t like it just go away. My blog is always me. Nothing more, nothing less.

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  38. It’s good for the soul to rise to the bait and fight back. Rants are cleansing. You are doing just fine, Stephen. There will always be unhappy trolls out there waiting to share their misery. I started following you several years ago upon seeing you blog title. If we don’t admit to ‘fractured faith’ then we are probably living in a Pollyanna world where a smiling God blesses every little detail – don’t know about you, but my life just doesn’t work that way.๐Ÿ™โค

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  39. Rant away! Itโ€™s your space! Thanks for being real! I have trouble with blogs that preach positive thinking will cure you. Iโ€™ve had a few tell me stuff… I did delete a comment last month because it was so out of line.

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  40. I’ve enjoyed your blog from the very beginning and you will get to write about whatever you want. Can’t blame your for ranting when someone hits a nerve or tries to inhibit you from doing what you love to do – keep on going.

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  41. I wonder what drives people sometimes, the havoc they wreak just with words, and they have nothing to add to the process, I hope you can rise above it and see the good.

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  42. On this big huge world wide web we unfortunately have to be ready for people who want to bring us down. There are those out there who walk with the Devil and they don’t even know it at times. But rest assured you will prevail no doubt! You shouldn’t have to explain yourself or anything for your husband because this is your BLOG AND THERE IS A REASON PEOPLE CAN SUBSCRIBE OR UNSUBSCRIBE OR FOLLOW AND UNFOLLOW!
    They don’t like it then they need not come back! Keep being you and doing what you do and Let God!
    All the best,
    Chic_Sober

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  43. I am so glad you have a thick skin. Go ahead and rant away, if we are really true followers, we will support your opinions and continue to read your blog. Thanks for showing us you are human with emotions, compassion, and feelings as well as being a great writer.

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  44. I am sure this has been said but here goes. Trolls are unfortunately everywhere on the Internet. They seem to take great pleasure in finding confidence or skill and attempting to break it down. They’re basically bullies who don’t have the balls to do it in person. Quite possibly, there’s someone in their life who makes them feel bad about themselves and they take it out on strangers. It’s fine to rant, but try not to spend too much undeserved energy on them. Secondly, you wrote a book! Advertise it however and wherever the hell you like. It’s an achievement and a potential business. Why write something and keep it to yourself?? Ask JK Rowling and I’m sure she will agree!!! Nobody would expect an artist to draw a fabulous picture and hide it under their bed… Lastly, I made a choice to read your post today. My choice and mine alone. It was my choice to respond to it too. Had the post not kept me engaged, I would have simply pressed ‘back’ and carried on with my life. I do my thing, and I have no intention of preventing anyone from doing theirs. I have found that trolls tend to go for people who have something going for them. Maybe it’s jealousy, maybe it’s boredom, but one thing it isn’t is valid. Some people see others with something they want and ask themselves ‘how can I get that for myself?’ then they work and work until they get it. Others see someone with something they want and think ‘that’s not fair. If I don’t have that then why should they?’ and instead of pulling themselves forward they try and pull others back. Let them fail, they’ll soon see something else shiny and move on. Keep writing and never let anyone make you feel like quitting!

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  45. It’s your blog, your domain. There will always be naysayers, trolls, and those who have different opinions about what you have to say, but you have the high authority here. Allow them to prance around like a fool, or banish them from your domain, but don’t let their words chip away at your skin. All constructive criticism aside of course.

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