Don’t Live Forever, Live For Now

25 years ago Oasis released ‘Definitely Maybe.’ Hearing this announced on the news this morning made me feel very old. It also brought memories of listening to the album on my ancient CD Walkman while walking to my first ‘proper’ job all those years ago. I was incredibly nervous but the music helped me to enter the premises and start a career which has taken me to where I am today.

If it wasn’t for that job I wouldn’t have the job I currently hold, met Fionnuala, got married, raised a family or all the other life events which have flew by in the last quarter of a century. Quarter of a century! Now I feel even older, like I should be in a museum or a dusty crypt. I’ve achieved a lot but know there is still so much to do, to cram into the time I’ve left on this little planet we call home.

Some bright sparks are marking the release of this iconic album by producing a musical based on the music and story of the band. It’s been provisionally titled ‘Live Forever,’ after one of their most famous hits. There are times I wish I could live forever or at least for much longer than our current lifespans. Oh, to be Methuselah who was 969 when he popped his clogs back in Genesis. What a guy he must have been.

Methuselah must have seen and crammed a lot into his time on earth. I wonder if he worried that his elongated existence wasn’t enough, if there was stuff still left undone when he breathed his last. I’d like to think there wasn’t and he died a contented man, surrounded by family and loved ones, and secure in the legacy he was leaving behind. Instead of worrying about living forever he lived for now.

Thanatophobia is the fear of dying. Also known as death anxiety, it is an affliction that affects many of us. The aggravating factor is that, by worrying so much about what he haven’t achieved we are losing our focus on what we are capable of in the here and now. Fretting about the future leads to decision inertia in the present. We freeze and fritter away the precious days and weeks we should be squeezing every last drop from.

Instead of day dreaming about living forever we should be living for now. So many are swallowed whole by the disappointment of what they haven’t achieved when they should be concentrating on the the potential for what is still possible, probable even, if they apply themselves fully to what is staring them in the face now. Hope is one of the strongest emotions we have, we need to release it’s power into our lives.

I read so many blogs where people are frustrated and struggling, where they are on the verge of quitting. Their dreams have been crushed, ground into the dirt by this juggernaut we call life. They’ve pulled the plug on their grand plan for life, flicked the off switch, turned out the lights. Some are so young as well, they still have so much to offer and achieve. They’ve given up on their stories as I’m still reading the prologue.

Live for now. Small steps, one at a time. Break your goals and targets down into bite size, manageable chunks. Even if it’s just getting out of bed and taking basic care of yourself. It’s a start, a step in the right direction. The present is life, it’s not behind or in front of you. Make the most of every minute you have for every minute is a new chance, a new start. Don’t live forever, for that’s a fairytale.

Live for now.

Published by Fractured Faith Blog

We are Stephen and Fionnuala and this is our story. We live in Northern Ireland, have been married for 17 years and have three kids - Adam, Hannah and Rebecca. We hope that our story will inspire and encourage others. We have walked a rocky road yet here we are today, together and stronger than ever. We are far from perfect and our faith has been battered and bruised. But an untested faith is a pointless faith. Just as a fractured faith is better than none at all. We hope you enjoy the blog.

29 thoughts on “Don’t Live Forever, Live For Now

  1. My goal these days is to live in the NOW, to embrace the Presence of the One who created me in all I do and say. Your message today reminds me of an AA ditty which I love:
    When you put one foot forward with your worries,
    And the other foot backward with your regrets
    You pee on the present!

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  2. Yes, I’ve heard this message before. But what’s important is that I’m hearing it today, this morning, and I need it to make me see again that a small step forward is still a step forward. So thanks for being there in my inbox this morning giving me the message I need to hear, over and over again it would seem. Thank you so much.


  3. “Live for now. Small steps, one at a time. Break your goals and targets down into bite size, manageable chunks. Even if it’s just getting out of bed and taking basic care of yourself. It’s a start, a step in the right direction. The present is life, it’s not behind or in front of you.”

    THIS is what makes the difference between harming yourself irreparably and getting through. You wanted to know what you could do to drop the horrific loss of life in Belfast? Get this post out to the kids, the worn down, the lost. Let them know that it’s a bad moment, not a bad eternity. If this post had been in my life at several low points, I feel there would have been less pull to give up on it all. Keep writing, thinking, and sharing. You’re making a difference.


  4. I felt just as you did when I realised that Duran Duran’s “Ordinary World,” (one of my favourite songs) was 26 years old! Enjoyed reading your thoughts


  5. The thought of living forever is a horrible one! While I’m not looking forward to the process of dying, the thought of death doesn’t scare me – but maybe because I am not yet facing up to the inevitability of it. I have the feeling that I won’t make old bones anyway, and that the BastardCancer will get me in the end. But until it does I will try to live for the moment!


  6. I never knew there was a word for death anxiety. Thanatophobia. Interesting.

    I believe this “death anxiety” is partly to blame for all the religious cults humans have created. People are anxious about dying so they need to believe there is a heaven to ascend up to.


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