Hit The Unfollow Button

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I learnt this lesson the hard way but sometimes, no matter how hard you try, some friendships have to end. There are toxic people out there who will bring you down if you allow them. Reminiscent of Icarus who flew too near the sun and paid the ultimate price, it can be fatal. My advice? Fly, run, walk or crawl away before it’s too late. Hit the unfollow button and cut them free. It will be the best decision you ever make.

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We are Stephen and Fionnuala and this is our story. We live in Northern Ireland, have been married for 17 years and have three kids - Adam, Hannah and Rebecca. We hope that our story will inspire and encourage others. We have walked a rocky road yet here we are today, together and stronger than ever. We are far from perfect and our faith has been battered and bruised. But an untested faith is a pointless faith. Just as a fractured faith is better than none at all. We hope you enjoy the blog.

43 thoughts on “Hit The Unfollow Button”

  1. Absolutely a fact! And it doesn’t stop at friendships, family members can be just as toxic, if not more because they know you so well. But nonetheless, doesn’t matter who it is, let them go. It does you no good to allow negative energy into your bubble. Once they’re outside your bubble, they’re gone. And that clean break is what we all need from the negative ones.

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  2. Excellent advice here! I think it also applies to work relationships, especially for freelancers. My business actually took off once I started unfollowing (firing) bad clients. Short-term, it was scary… but over the long-term, doing this allowed me to forget about them and instead focus 100% on the good ones.

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  4. When first read this – thought this is a bit harsh – everyone is good and bad and a long term friendship is shared history but then remembered people who have totally hurt me beyond what want to cope with (perhaps did’n’t even realize they were doing this) and agree walking away is better than anger or going along with something that draws you into a place you don’t want to be and sure same happened other way round even if didn’t realize. But it takes strength not to be drawn back.

    The thing is – there must be a way of doing this that leaves dignity for both otherwise perhaps you are also being cruel?

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    1. Agreed. There has to be a balance here. Some people are too quick to throw away relationships. Some people are indeed just far too toxic to deal with though. Some are also emotional vampires who want to draw you into a never ending web of pity or anger. I had to kick my own mother to the curb (figuratively) twice because she was so toxic. She finally learned and grew as a person. Ultimately it was good for her.

      The dignity factor comes from taking a higher road when you break it off. If they come back at you with a bunch of venomous garbage you know you not only made the right choice but were a better person too. 😉

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  11. When they continually press buttons you thought you’d got rid of, when they prey on your mind for far too long, when they show no consideration or respect and still you’ve given them chances – yes, time to shut the door!

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  12. So very true. A few years ago I was surrounded by some great work friends but they were in a bad place with work and so negative. They ultimately did the right thing and moved on but whilst I was with them, they dragged me down with them. Then I surrounded myself with much more positive people and the opposite happened, I too become more motivated and happier. I have recently over Christmas distanced myself from some family members who were just dragging everybody down they came into contact with. Got to look after number 1 first.

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  14. I just did a post along a similar message entitled “Safety Switch” I love how God works! My blog is about encouragement and I want to live my life accordingly. If I get a negative message, I just delete it. Life is TOO short to get sucked into the drama. Please keep up the good work!

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  16. Following up on the post you wrote on “ghosting” and my reply, I wrote an “unfollow” email to someone who had been a dear friend. I told her she was disrespectful in ghosting me and that as of the new year I would think of her no more. It was liberating and I have no regrets.

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  17. It’s ok to cut them out! However that doesn’t mean we need to be mean in return and feel hate and resentment towards them, we need to love them from a distance and pray for them daily ❤

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  19. I agree. I’ve learnt this lesson over the past year or so. I’ve recently had to unfollow a friend of 20 years on Facebook. I had noticed changes in her over the last 12 months or so, but the catalyst was when I politely disagreed with her about something, she said ‘everyone is allowed to share their own feelings without people telling them they can’t feel that way’, (which was not what I did in any way!) then proceeded to tell me that I was wrong. While I was typing a message to apologize if my comment had made her think that I was saying that, she deleted the entire post. I felt betrayed. After our long standing friendship, she wouldn’t even allow me to apologize or defend myself. We have a long history, of me being there for her through some very tough times, but due to a misunderstanding, that friendship has gone. I’m devastated, but for my own well-being I had to let it go.

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