I used to be a people pleaser, so insecure and lacking in self belief that I’d mould my own personality and morals to fit those of whoever were my particular friends at that time. It got me into all sorts of bother and I’m working hard to eradicate that side of my character and be my own person. I’m still a work in progress but I’m getting there. I focus now on those who matter. No more playing the mug.
Don’t Be A Mug
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We are Stephen and Fionnuala and this is our story. We live in Northern Ireland, have been married for 17 years and have three kids - Adam, Hannah and Rebecca. We hope that our story will inspire and encourage others. We have walked a rocky road yet here we are today, together and stronger than ever. We are far from perfect and our faith has been battered and bruised. But an untested faith is a pointless faith. Just as a fractured faith is better than none at all. We hope you enjoy the blog. View more posts
Great advice. 🙂
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👍🏻
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One of your best posts of all time. Fabulous advice.
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Thank you very much.
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I am also a recovering people pleaser and I struggled (and continue to struggle) to recognize what part of me was actually “me”. You lose yourself so quickly in the process of keeping others happy and it takes a lot of work to see yourself again through all the fog. *Cheers! No more playing the mug 🙂
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I know exactly what you mean!
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So glad to hear! Sometimes I feel crazy like I’m the only one who needs to give herself a pep talk before grocery shopping!
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I’m glad to hear you’re in a better place now, Angie. Cheers to you as well 🙂
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Brilliant! I have to laugh as I recognise myself in this. Speaking of self-belief – I’m so lost sometimes that I struggle to believe I exist! 😂
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Join the club 😂
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I am the same, that’s why I umd and ard whether to write my last post.
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I’ll be sure to read it.
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Love this – don’t ever want to be a mug!
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Me neither. Thank you Barbara.
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Are you sure you’re not? You’ve stopped writing some things, you know…
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What do you mean,
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Oh, you know: maybe pleasing everyone with blog posts…
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Oh, believe me, there are many I don’t please. I lost a lot of followers when I stopped posting Christian content. But it would have been disingenuous of me to keep doing so.
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Do you really think so?
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A work in progress but worth every second, minute, hour, day, and years of progress!
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Most definitely. Thank you 😊
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That’s a good one. I also like the phrase, “You are not Nutella.” 🙂
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Hmmmm. I’ve never heard that one before.
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Terrific!
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So true! It can take many years to learn this valuable lesson. I try to keep in mind the importance of being honest in all things (Hebrews 13:18) including being honest to myself. Everyone won’t like us, as you mentioned, but at least we’ll be true to who we are and can build real lasting relationships.
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Thank you for your kind words 🙂
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