We are Stephen and Fionnuala and this is our story. We live in Northern Ireland, have been married for 17 years and have three kids - Adam, Hannah and Rebecca.
We hope that our story will inspire and encourage others. We have walked a rocky road yet here we are today, together and stronger than ever. We are far from perfect and our faith has been battered and bruised.
But an untested faith is a pointless faith. Just as a fractured faith is better than none at all.
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19 thoughts on “I Don’t Like You Very Much”
Unfortunately, this sounds all too familiar to me.
Ah, the morning mirror debate. It’s a shame, isn’t it, how our brains attack us and try to bring us down. The constant arguing with that irritating component is a fatiguing struggle. How nice will be the day when that voice is gone forever.
It’s interesting that we never actually see ourselves; we will ever see a reflection. We spend a great deal of time dealing with the impact of how others have treated us, and how we believe our reflection distorts us, for good or bad, but the truth is only other people will ever physically see us. And we them. Perhaps the greatest gift we can give ourselves is to learn to trust that not everyone looks for the ugly in us; not everyone sees the terrible. There are people who actually believe in us, and see us as beautiful and worthy. If we can learn to trust that they might be seeing something we can’t, perhaps when we view our reflections in the mirror we won’t be so quick to find every flaw, real or not. We are our own worst critics, but that’s a dangerous path to go down. You are allowed to be believe that you are enough; you are allowed to believe that you are worth walking upon this Earth. Believing that only you can see the truth in your reflection, that others can only see a facade and if they knew the truth they would hate you too, is a hopeless and lonely place to live. We must allow the goodness of others to bring us comfort. We must not fight alone.
Black Thoughts 
Unfortunately, this sounds all too familiar to me.
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Me too 😕
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Wow, a lot of info there. Thanks for sharing!
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You’re welcome.
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I’ve been there before. 😦
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So there ❤
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Ah, the morning mirror debate. It’s a shame, isn’t it, how our brains attack us and try to bring us down. The constant arguing with that irritating component is a fatiguing struggle. How nice will be the day when that voice is gone forever.
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I hope to see that day. Thank you.
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😿
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👍🏻🙂
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Aw, yes. There aren’t many people that I truly dislike, but the ones I do dislike I dislike intensely.
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Ha Ha 😂
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I’m bad eh? haha
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I like me.
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I like you. 😊
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It’s interesting that we never actually see ourselves; we will ever see a reflection. We spend a great deal of time dealing with the impact of how others have treated us, and how we believe our reflection distorts us, for good or bad, but the truth is only other people will ever physically see us. And we them. Perhaps the greatest gift we can give ourselves is to learn to trust that not everyone looks for the ugly in us; not everyone sees the terrible. There are people who actually believe in us, and see us as beautiful and worthy. If we can learn to trust that they might be seeing something we can’t, perhaps when we view our reflections in the mirror we won’t be so quick to find every flaw, real or not. We are our own worst critics, but that’s a dangerous path to go down. You are allowed to be believe that you are enough; you are allowed to believe that you are worth walking upon this Earth. Believing that only you can see the truth in your reflection, that others can only see a facade and if they knew the truth they would hate you too, is a hopeless and lonely place to live. We must allow the goodness of others to bring us comfort. We must not fight alone.
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Thank you for your kind words 🙂
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Well, that’s out of the blue…
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Oh you…
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