What Counts In Your Life?

There’s a lot of counting going on this week. We have been told to keep counting and stop counting, sometimes in capital letters. Numbers are being scrutinised in painstaking detail, with hundreds of hours of airtime being devoted to counting, recounting, and then counting some more. My very average mathematical brain has struggled to keep pace with all the number crunching. I’m much more comfortable juggling words as opposed to digits.

What counts though? If we’re ahead at the end of the race, no matter what? Is it winner takes all and if that involves a bit of skullduggery along the way then so be it. We live in a world where many adopt a ‘win at all costs’ mentality. And yes, there is much to be said for going out onto the field of play believing in yourself and your abilities. It’s okay to possess self-belief and a strong desire to win. All of our great champions do.

But where do we draw the line? When does having a healthy, competitive streak spill over into arrogance, narcissism and downright nastiness? Nobody likes a bad loser but a bad winner is even worse. A true sportsperson accepts both victory and defeat with good grace and a respect for their fellow competitor. May the best person win and no hard feelings at the end. Isn’t that the very essence of sportsmanship?

Winning matters. Yes, it’s good to win. When I watch my kids play matches, sit exams, go on stage I want them to do well, to be the very best they can, to win. But I cannot allow that to be at all costs. It’s not about climbing the mountain, it’s about the manner in which you climb the mountain. The counting will continue. The best man will win. Dignity, honour, justice and humility will prevail. That’s what counts, right?

Published by Fractured Faith Blog

We are Stephen and Fionnuala and this is our story. We live in Northern Ireland, have been married for 17 years and have three kids - Adam, Hannah and Rebecca. We hope that our story will inspire and encourage others. We have walked a rocky road yet here we are today, together and stronger than ever. We are far from perfect and our faith has been battered and bruised. But an untested faith is a pointless faith. Just as a fractured faith is better than none at all. We hope you enjoy the blog.

22 thoughts on “What Counts In Your Life?

  1. Lord, deliver us from this monster. I’m not sure what those millions of people who voted for him see as redeemable. Would they let their children emulate his behavior? Would they point to him as someone to admire? Of course not. There’s grace in winning as well as losing. This is the most imaginable worst but not unexpected.

    Perfect message for the day.

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  2. Local politics are far more important then national politics in my opinion, unless war is on the table. The thing that scares me the most about this election is the unbelievable amount of propaganda from both sides. Its a complete mess and we are now at a point where people cant believe what they are reading. Not only that we have large swaths of people who seem perfectly comfortable labeling tens of millions of people as idiots for not agreeing with them. To the point they will attack, belittle, cancel on and on.

    Its an ugly time and I hope we come out of this with grace but I dont see that happening, I think its going to get worse before it gets better and thats regardless of who actually “wins”. Either way U.S. citizens lose.

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    1. Your comment on opinion and propaganda reminds me of the Netflix documentary “The Social Dilemma”.

      Not that I agree with everything in it, but the sheer influence wielded on people by outside forces.

      Which is why a little disconnection is needed frequently these days for self-preservation alone, let alone great mental health.

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      1. Isnt that the truth… Ive stopped watching main stream media altogether and my instinct was correct it isnt believable at all. They are to the point now where if you even mildly agree with side A or side B you are every “ist” in the book. I dont need it, i am officially unplugging from the B.S. Cheers

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  3. In an ideal world, it would all be about service to humanity…not power or winning. If we truly understood the great burden and responsibilities of ‘power’, we would never seek it out, but rather do our best in sincere service to others, and if the people *choose* us, we humbly accept and try to maintain that service with humility.


  4. “Dignity, honur, justice and humility” – I can’t wait for it to witness those things again. And eloquence. And empathy. And truthfulness. And not just from the white house. Let’s make those things important again. In general.


  5. The proof is alway in the eating of the pudding, Stephen. However, “table manners” are always very important in my view – even when eating pudding, and we might just see a bit more of that going forward 😊


  6. The winning we must first be aiming at is bettering ourselves. Comparison with others always has the danger of leading to clawing and scratching to climb higher. Work hard, to try and win, and learn from those who know more than we do. (We’ll definitely have stuff to teach too!)


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